Soul Contract Clearing: A Path to Freedom, Healing & Wholeness

Emma Elizabeth
May 12
5 min read

Have you ever felt like you’re living a life that’s too small, too heavy, or too quiet for the truth of who you are?

Like, no matter how much healing work you’ve done, something unseen is still calling the shots?

That “something” could be a soul contract — not just with another person, but with yourself.

These are not just energetic ties — they’re deep soul vows we’ve carried across lifetimes. Promises made during trauma, spiritual wounding, or lifetimes of survival. They shape how we speak, love, trust, receive, and exist.

This blog isn’t just here to inform you — it’s here to begin the healing.

Let’s walk through what these soul vows are, how to know which one is running your life, and how to begin the clearing process — right here, right now.

What Is a Soul Contract?

Soul contracts are energetic agreements made on a subconscious or soul level. Some are made with others before we incarnate. But some — the ones that affect us most quietly — are vows we make with ourselves during trauma, heartbreak, or pain.

These soul vows get embedded in your field, running like background programs:

“This is how I’ll stay safe.”“This is what I must sacrifice to be loved.”“This is how I’ll make sure I’m not hurt again.”

They often began with survival. But now, they block your expansion.

The Four Most Common Soul Vows (and How to Spot Them)

✨ A) The Vow of Silence

“It’s not safe to speak my truth.”

Born from lifetimes (or childhoods) where your voice brought punishment, shame, or danger.

This vow protects you by keeping your wisdom, needs, or spiritual gifts hidden.

You might notice:

Fear of speaking up, even when you're right
Throat tension or chronic sore throats
Holding back your truth to keep the peace
Being highly intuitive but afraid to share what you know

✨ When cleared: Your voice becomes a source of freedom, for you and others. You speak with clarity, power, and grace.

✨ B) The Vow of Invisibility

“I’ll be safe if I stay small.”

This vow forms in lifetimes or environments where being seen meant being targeted, especially for being different, magical, emotional, or intuitive.

You might notice:

Fear of success, recognition, or taking up space
Shrinking your light around others
Feeling “overlooked” or invisible in groups
Holding yourself back just as things start to work

✨ When cleared: You feel safe to be seen, celebrated, and fully expressed. You stop hiding from your own greatness.

✨ C) The Vow of Sacrifice

“I must care for others before myself.”

Often held by healers, empaths, mothers, and those with past lives in service or spiritual vows. It’s the belief that your needs must come last in order to be good, spiritual, or worthy of love.

You might notice:

Chronic people-pleasing or caregiver burnout
Feeling guilty when you rest or receive
Constantly attracting people who need saving
Exhaustion from carrying others' pain

✨ When cleared: You give from fullness, not depletion. You know your energy is sacred, and you become a healthier mirror for others.

✨ D) The Vow of Suffering

“I must struggle to be worthy.”

Rooted in religious trauma, ancestral poverty, or past lives where suffering was linked with holiness or purpose. This vow says: If I’m not in pain, I’m not growing.

You might notice:

Always attracting the “hard way”
Feeling undeserving of ease or abundance
Distrusting pleasure or joy
Guilt when things go well

✨ When cleared: You begin to embody the truth: your joy is just as holy as your pain. You stop waiting for the next collapse, and let life be beautiful.

“But What If I Have All Four?”

If you’re reading this and thinking, “I resonate with every single one of these,” you’re not alone. In fact, that response is more common than you might think, especially for intuitives, empaths, old souls, or those who’ve walked through lifetimes (or childhoods) of survival over safety.

These vows are deeply intertwined.

They rarely exist in isolation.

You may have grown up silencing your truth (Vow of Silence), shrinking yourself to stay safe (Vow of Invisibility), putting everyone’s needs before your own (Vow of Sacrifice), and internalising the belief that love, success, or peace must be earned through pain (Vow of Suffering).

It doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re waking up.

These vows were survival strategies. Soul-level defences.

And now, you’re ready to choose something new.

Where to Begin When You Feel Them All:

Start with the one that feels loudest today. That’s your entry point. Clearing one often softens the grip of the others.
Know this is not a race. You don’t have to heal it all at once. This is deep work — and it’s sacred work.
Let this be a process of coming home. Not a fixing. Not a pressure. A return to the truest version of you — the one beneath the vows.

You were never meant to carry all of this forever.

How to Begin Soul Vow Clearing (A Ritual for Release)

You don’t need a full ceremony to start. Your intention is enough. But here’s a practice you can use today to begin releasing what no longer serves:

Step 1: Call in Your Higher Self

Sit somewhere quiet. Light a candle. Close your eyes.

Place your hand on your heart and say:

“I am ready to release what no longer belongs to me.I am ready to return to who I truly am.”

Step 2: Name the Vow

Write (or speak) the vow that feels most present.

“I release the vow of [Silence / Invisibility / Sacrifice / Suffering].I no longer need it to stay safe.I honour why I carried it.And now I set it down.”

Step 3: Burn, Tear, or Bury the Old Story

Symbolic action matters.

Burn the paper (safely).
Bury it in the earth.
Tear it into tiny pieces and throw it to the wind.

As you do, say:

“I am no longer bound. I choose freedom. I choose truth. I choose me.”

Step 4: Anchor In the New

Choose a replacement belief. Something simple and true.

“My voice is sacred.”“It is safe for me to be seen.”“I am worthy of rest and joy.”“I deserve a beautiful life.”

Repeat this daily. Write it. Breathe it. Let it replace the old pattern.

A Final Word From My Heart to Yours

You don’t need to suffer for your soul to grow.

You don’t need to stay hidden to stay safe.

You don’t need to carry everyone to be loved.

And you don’t need to silence your truth to be accepted.

You are here to be free, fully expressed, and deeply supported by the Universe.

Clearing soul vows isn’t just healing — it’s an act of remembrance.

Of who you were before the wound.

And who you’re becoming beyond it.

Want Support Clearing This at the Soul Level?

I offer deep 1:1 Soul Contract Clearing Sessions for those ready to release the vows holding them back. Together, we’ll go beyond the conscious mind and into the soul — gently releasing, healing, and calling you back into your power.

If you're ready to release the vow you’ve been unknowingly living by… I’m here to walk beside you.

👉 Click here to book your Soul Contract Clearing Session or reach out if you’d like to chat about where to begin, Hello@RealmsofAlchemy.com